Being a Dad is an amazing job that comes with a great deal of responsibility and provides many, many amazing joys.
When the kids are little, we get to be silly and build legos and paint pictures and make mudpies and build sand castles and eat ice cream cones and explore all kinds of new, wonderful things and places. Little kids are so inquisitive and creative they can often surprise us with their unique and unaffected view of the world.
Our little ones think Dads know everything. Dads can fix anything. Dads can basically do anything. When they are small, kids think Dads are superheroes.
Of course, Dad’s are not superheroes. All along the way Dads struggle with their own challenges, not to mention so many of the difficult decisions they have to make regarding careers, marriages, friends and families. Life is life – even for “superhero” Dads.
From how to get them to eat their veggies to where is the line between “support” and “pushing”. Are we spoiling them or do they simply deserve all the best things in life? Is it okay for a kid to sleep all morning and play all day – or should they be taking summer classes and doing more homework or working a summer job? Every one of these questions can trigger existential consideration for a Dad. We don’t want to screw anything up or emotionally scar our kids for life!
No, Dads are not superheroes. They are just regular ol’ people doing the best they can with what they’ve got. Our dads were not perfect, but they loved us and they taught us a lot. They taught us to be responsible and love our families and, most importantly, to be kind and caring. And when everything’s said and done, that’s mostly what it’s all about. All the other stuff just turns out to be stuff we worry about along the way.
To all the Dads out there, we want to tell you – you are doing an amazing job. Keep up the good work. Your children appreciate you more than you know.